Girls.

Girls, girls, girls.
What are we doing when we wake up in the morning to dress ourselves?


Scenario A:
Girl 1: "I feel like all he wants me for is my body. He just wants to be physical with me all the time."
Girl 2: "Oh my gosh, you deserve so much better. I can't believe he would do that!"
*Cue light bulb and sense of empowerment in Girl 1's head*
-I should feel hurt, he is such a jerk. I deserve so much better. Ugh, I can't believe him.

Okay, okay, stop. I could write another blog on the way girls support each other for no reason and then we just feel empowered by that, but this one is about clothing choices.

The guy could be a legitimate jerk here. However, we've got to start examining ourselves before we put guys in the "tool bag" category.

We usually attract what we are.

We complain that we're being seen as a "piece of meat" and not being noticed for our personality. Then we wear shorts so short that we might as well just be wearing underwear, dresses that could double as shirts, and shirts so tight our boobs spill out easily. And my favorite, putting our money and cell phones between our boobs. Convenient...

Our personality is kind of hidden because our clothing choices, or lack there of.

We want guys to fight for us.
Pursue us.

Most of us don't want to be "easy".
But what is there to pursue when you lay it all out there?

And if you want the in-the-moment relationship, then dress whatever way you want. You will be fulfilled for the moment and probably hurt in the long run.

I realize there's a lot more underlying than this. We want affirmation that we're loved, and wanted. It's more subconscious than anything. We feel wanted when we're physical with a guy. But I promise there are more ways to feel wanted, and it will be more rewarding. It just won't be so immediate. Patience, ladies. Be hard to get. And stop giving yourself excuses.

I'm just calling us girls to a higher standard. Woman up, dress like you have something to offer beyond your body. Honor your future husband by not having men pant over you (learn to get your affirmation from somewhere else). Respect yourself enough to realize you should be treated better, but you need to examine why you're not.

I'm tired of putting this all on the guys, although they can be jerks, stop being ignorant of what you're parading around.


You can blame the media all you want for the misconception of beauty, but ultimately it is our choice what kind of guys we want to attract.